A devotee in martyr's clothing
Published on December 3, 2004 By oleteach In Personal Relationships
Here are five of my observations about those who are so unsure of themselves that they put on a facade that may fool people some of the time but eventually their true colors will come out.

1. Their dishonesty will be glaring…They say they like things that later you find out they hate…They go places with you and say they are enjoying it…but it is evident they are not.
2. Their desires and feelings change from one minute to the next. They are usually trying to make some other person “fixed” or happy.
3. They are famous for doing things out of duty rather than desire…They feel obligated or they think something is expected of them.
4. They are always quick to set aside their own genuine needs to meet the needs and wants of others (Something to be admired if it is genuine and in balance)…and then they put on their best martyr face. Bitter, resentful feelings will be pressed down for just so long and then they will invite everyone to join them in a big pity-party which is always lots of fun, a chance to see an expert pouter, perhaps.
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Comments
on Dec 03, 2004
You wrote a blog about my mother. Have you met her. She is the queen of guilt complexes during her pity parties, after her martyrdom.

Interesting article, oleteach.
on Dec 03, 2004
Heather...Thanks for the comment...no I have not met your mother but I have a sister who was an expert on getting her way through pouting. Sometimes it was just easier to give in than to put up with her moods. I still love her and she has dropped some of that as she has advanced in age and wisdom.
on Dec 04, 2004
oleteach--Great blog. It is sad, but true, that there are those who desire so much to just go along that they allow themselves to become angry and bitter at the world. Often they forget that they are only in the situation they are in by one person's choice. And it ain't no one else's.

We all make our own choices in life. And we all need to, at some point in the game, own up to them.